Well, today had a ton of great elements - sunshine, coffee, breakfast, thunderstorm, new mentees, community dinner, catchphrase, babies doing things for the first time, laughter, and biggest on my list: reconciliation.
A few weeks ago I got into a bit of a fight with a friend - one friend whom I have always enjoyed whenever I return to Montana. The incident made me sad and while I was not entirely sure my anger was unwarranted, I did feel that I had handled the situation poorly. In my desire to make amends I wrote a note apologizing for the way I had acted and noted why I had gotten irritated to begin with.
They say that people tend to get angry at the people we love the most. I'm sure there are several philosophies on why things are this way, but I've always gravitated toward the idea that we believe those people will forgive us, so we let all of our emotions loose. Since this was just a friend, I couldn't figure out why I had allowed myself to release my rage, but I suppose there could be more to it.
I handed off the note in passing and tonight that friend and I spoke. We discussed the nature of our conversation - how we'd both hit each other in a sensitive spot, we both apologized, and we agreed to move forward with our friendship.
I tend to mourn lost friendships - especially those that I've cherished for so long (we grew up together) so I am happy that there will be no mourning period. I'm happy we were able to discuss our feelings like adults, apologize, and still share a hope to be friends. It was, and is refreshing.
It seems there has been much reconciliation between people around me lately. It gives me some hope for humanity. We are meant to show love to one another - and I do hope this is something I can accomplish and learn to do better each and every day.
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