When my birthday rolled around there some people who were unable to come to the brunch I'd planned for the day - several of them actually said they wanted to take me out for dinner or lunch or coffee. On day 150, I was privileged enough to go out with one of them for a delicious lunch.
Not only did we eat great food in a little place that caters to vegan people (which... I'm not.. however, my cheese allergy sometimes appreciates the thinking style of vegans), but we also had some great conversation.
I noted that it was good to see this individual affirmed in her passions, because we share some passion and I was not always met with affirmation - and I'll be honest, I thought it was because I am a woman. I would still wager to say it is that way, but she speculated that perhaps she was better received than me, or other wonderful friends of mine, because she is older than the rest of us. Perhaps she is right, but I was still happy to see her being given the space and freedom to exercise her passions.
As we were talking she noted that people just aren't really affirming enough - so when I commented on how kind I thought the folks were who'd offered me meals she quickly said that they offered such things because I'm awesome and deserving of such care. Although she may not have said life-changing words, she said something that all people need to hear.
Instead we spend time criticizing and antagonizing those around us, when in reality, we're all going through life together. We all have flaws, we all have weaknesses, and we all are in need and worthy of affirmation and encouragement. Instead of looking at others as enemies or competition, we should spend time building one another up.
It was truly a delightful day with her - complete with ice cream, which I also love.
I'm a lucky girl. And I hope you find people in your life to affirm you as well.
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